Dealing with birthfamilies

I have been taking time to read blogs by those from all sides of the adoption triad.  I want to direct you to posts that are informative, eye opening, and may expand your understanding and awareness of the adoption experience.  Here is one such post about one experience with birthfamily written by blogger “Adoption Tree”.

As Sri is/was the “first/oldest grandchild” in our family before I relinquished my parental rights, I found the post relevant.  Does the child placed for adoption still hold their rank in birth order in the birthfamily?  It obviously depends on one’s perspective and can get really confusing, particularly to a child “placed for adoption”.  As “Adoption Tree” points out repeatedly in her blog “sensitivity, respect, consideration and openness” are key in building relationships between birthfamily members and the “adoptees” during reunification and beyond.  (Maybe some of the questions we spend time thinking/speaking about, such as “order of grandchildren” or “which parent the baby looks most like” aren’t all that important.)  Or maybe it is it just that families touched by adoption need to be aware that certain comments can cause needless hurt.

I can only hope Sri can/will be open and honest about her own needs and wants as she eventually strikes out and explores the world of “the birthfamily-maternal or paternal”.

Thanks Adoption Tree for your openness.